She sat on the tailgate of the pickup with her dad in silence. The hot summer breeze reminded her of opening the oven door when her mom had something cooking in it. Many things were running through her mind, and her heart was in turmoil. It was her junior year of college and Liz was close to facing life as an adult. She had declared her major the year before, but now wrestled with her decision.
She timidly started the conversation with her dad that weighed upon her mind. “Dad, there is a song that says ‘your desire is the confirmation that the destination is there.’ Do you believe that? Is a strong desire for something God’s way of telling you that’s what you should do?” Her dad thought for a moment. “Yes,” he began cautiously. “I think it would be safe to say that. Why?” “Ok,” thought Liz, “you can do this.” She proceeded to tell her father that she had no desire whatsoever to pursue a career. Her innermost yearning was to be a wife and a mother. “Is that weird?” “No,” he replied, “in fact there is no higher calling in my opinion.” Liz breathed a deep sigh. She felt that unseen shackles had just fallen from her heart.
There are many people who fly through life in solo mode. Some choose this path on their own; others have it thrust upon them. Many find their lives filled with activities, social events and hobbies. These distractions are welcomed in order to quiet the sense of loneliness that haunts them. It is like an ever-present shadow that looms around the corner. Many hope that the noise of life will drown out the cry of their soul for companionship. What some fail to realize is that this desire for companionship was created by God. The first relationship was designed to be with Him; the second was for a mate.
In Genesis we find that God made man in His own image, and that he put man in charge of all creation. Yet even with the world as his playground, man was lonely. He had an audience with the King of Kings, and still he found himself alone. The God of the universe had compassion on His creation and created a soul mate for him. Adam was put into a deep sleep and God performed a heavenly surgery. He took a rib from Adam’s side and created woman. Her name was Eve, and she became the mother of all living. Together these two began life together, tending the garden and caring for God’s creation.
Then an interesting thing occurred. They sinned. Not only were they punished individually for their sin, as some like to point out (or point fingers at), but they were also punished as a couple. These two people whom God had joined together were indeed one body and soul. The sins of one affected them as a unit. Both were cast out of the garden and instructed to till the ground for the rest of their days to provide for themselves. They were also given another mandate. “Be fruitful and multiply.” Adam and Eve were commanded to become parents!
While this may sound like a punishment at this point, it was really God’s way of blessing this wayward couple and all those after them. It was a way to restore them. Consider what scripture says.
In Genesis 4:1, it says, “Now the man had relations with his wife Eve, and she conceived and gave birth to Cain, and she said, ‘I have gotten a manchild with the help of the Lord.'”
Genesis 15:5, “And He took him outside and said, ‘Now look toward the heavens, and count the stars, if you are able to count them.’ And He said to him, ‘So shall your descendants be.'”
Genesis 22:17, “indeed I will greatly bless you, and I will greatly multiply your seed as the stars of the heavens and as the sand which is on the seashore; and your seed shall possess the gate of their enemies.”
Leviticus 26:9, “So I will turn toward you and make you fruitful and multiply you, and I will confirm My covenant with you.”
Deuteronomy 7:12-14, “Then it shall come about, because you listen to these judgments and keep and do them, that the Lord your God will keep with you His covenant and His lovingkindness which He swore to your forefathers. He will love you and bless you and multiply you; He will also bless the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your ground, your grain and your flock, in the land which He swore to your forefathers to give you. You shall be blessed above all peoples; there will be no male or female barren among you or among your cattle.”
Jeremiah 33:22, “As the host of heaven cannot be counted and the sand of the sea cannot be measured, so I will multiply the descendants of David My servant and the Levites who minister to Me.
1 Timothy 2:15, “But women will be preserved through the bearing of children if they continue in faith and love and sanctity with self-restraint.”
From obtaining help from the Lord to preserving mankind, God’s word is clear that parenting is His plan for couples. It is one way He chooses to reward and bless His people.
His blessings are also contingent upon our obedience to Him as a couple. Deuteronomy 4:40 says, “So you shall keep His statutes and His commandments which I am giving you today, that it may go well with you and with your children after you, and that you may live long on the land which the Lord your God is giving you for all time.” He further clarifies this in Psalm 128:1-3. “How blessed is everyone who fears the Lord, who walks in His ways. When you shall eat of the fruit of your hands, you will be happy and it will be well with you. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine within your house, your children like olive plants around your table.”
There are various other passages that show God’s desire for mankind to marry and have children.
Proverbs 17:6, “Grandchildren are the crown of old men, and the glory of sons is their fathers.”
Titus 1:6, “namely, if any man is above reproach, the husband of one wife, having children who believe, not accused of dissipation or rebellion.”
Titus 2:4,5, “so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”
Flying solo is not the biblical plan for people. There are those rare instances where God does call some to remain celibate, but the purpose of this calling is to serve Him, not themselves.